Is radical self-acceptance the key to your success?

One client led to my burnout and ultimate decline in growth. Why?

You're on the cusp of something great. You can feel it. Others around you can feel it. But you feel as if there's one little thing that's not quite right, and you can't put your finger on it.

I had a calendar booked for months. I was looking at hiring another freelancer. I was about to push the button on a marketing manager. I was finally reaping the rewards of the consistent efforts I'd been putting in months before this growth period happened. I was beyond excited that I finally had tangible evidence of my business doing well, my clients were amazing and loved the work, and I felt on top of the world. I felt like I was truly on the cusp of something great. Then, the leads dried up. The growth faded as quickly as it had come. I was busy one minute, and then the next, I wasn't.

The question I had was why? Why? Whhhyyyy?

Upon reflection and about 11 months of distance from that time in my business, I'd realised one key thing that I was doing, unconsciously, in my business, in my content, in all aspects, was that I didn't actually have the necessary self-belief required to be operating at a higher energetic level. Call me woo woo - but that shit is for real.

Until recently, I was on a call with an old coach, James, from Betsy & Francis, and we were just catching up and I realised that I was just being me. In some weird and wonderful way, I noticed that there was this disconnect sometimes in how I show up. There was mismatch in who I believed I needed to be in order to be everything for everyone.

With James, with my clients, I'm one person. I'm me. But on social media, it's this polished, finessed, put together version of me that isn't always true.

With James, I didn't have to pretend. He knew me and I knew him. I was at the train station, in my car, putting my shoes on, needing to walk onto the train, on the train. — i did whatever I needed to do, because I haven't setup this air of illusion where I needed to pretend I'm something other than what or who I am. It's this radical self-acceptance, not being ashamed that I work full time, or have little time, or anything like that, because i just know that as long as I show up as me, then that's good enough for me.

It was in those moments, where I'm truly being me, truly accepting and honouring myself, and where I have that honest self-belief, is when I notice I make the biggest strides, the biggest leaps and bounds and what I want truly comes into focus.

And sometimes, that's all it is. You just need to be okay with whatever it is you're doing and however you're showing up. Because at the end of the day, people will either love it (your dream clients) or they won't (people you probs didn't want to work with anyway!)